My world seems to be surrounding me with with weddings.
The first wedding I will be going to as a friend and not a family member is a very non-traditional one, since there will be two brides, both of whom are already married (to men), and no marriage afterwards–just a celebration of their love, which is a very sweet thing I think.
Then my favorite site has to do a feature on the idea of fathers walking their daughters down the aisle, since that is what the Princess of Sweden will be doing at her wedding. That left me wondering a little about what my thoughts on the issue are.
What I know for sure:
- I would ideally like to have both of my parents walk me down the aisle were I to have a wedding. Or to walk down the aisle or whatever with my partner beside me.
- I would not want it in a church nor performed by a religious official (with the possible exception of a UU minister).
- I am ambiguous about the idea of weddings and marriages as a whole. I don’t like how one piece of paper that is often only granted to a man and woman can determine so much, like tax status and whether someone has to testify against you in court. Why not allow consenting adults to form whatever partnership(s) they think will most benefit them with whomever they like and have that be legally binding?
- My parents said that as long as they had met my partner they would be okay with us eloping.
- I’m not wearing white. Not a big fan of the color to start out with and I’d rather wear something I can wear again. My general thoughts have been a midnight blue overbust corset underneath a black pantsuit with heels so I can look taller.
- Open bar at the reception or party or whatever afterwards.
What I don’t know:
- What I would say if just my father wanted to walk me down the aisle.
- What I would do if my partner insisted upon having a church wedding (though I would hope that at that point they would know me better than to think I’d be okay with that.)
- Whether I would want flowers–it just seems like a rather unnecessary expense.
- Whether I really want to get married in the first place because of my above-mentioned ambiguity about the institution as a whole.