I have had a lot of time to think about where I am at and where I want to be in polyland over the last few months.
I am a poly person, who, to the outside world, looks monogamous because I only have one partner. Even more conformist, he’s male. So I look heterosexual and monogamous. Hmmm…
I want to, at some point in the future, have more partners. I don’t think this will happen in the next six months to a year, mostly because I need that time to put myself back together and having the stability of sticking to existing relationships will be necessary to do that. I am very glad that Trydaen is in the picture; he can be a good leaning post when I need one and I love growing from him and with him.
I want to take this opportunity to explore those aspects of my sexuality beyond what I have experience with. I want to build on my voyeurism, watch people loving and fucking and playing, feel how satisfying it can be for me without even being sexed. I want to build on the big/little aspect of my relationship with Trydaen, because I think that has the possibility of going interesting places. I want to learn how to be a rope and flogging top, and spend more time in my dominant headspace – it is very confidence building. I want to spend more times in groups. I want to kiss, makeout, and touch more people without the expectation that it will lead to sex of any kind, but be more okay with talking to Trydaen when I think I want it to go there.
I want to work on being a more loving and open person, being able to express clearly and without hesitation what I want in any given situation. I want to write more, to put more thoughts down on digital paper, to share more of what I am thinking with the rest of the world. I want to be able to take more time for myself when I need it and remember to nurture my relationship with myself. I want to think more carefully through the defense mechanisms, alterations to my behavior, and ways I think about the world because of my disabilities, and remember not to use my disabilities as excuses, only possible explanations.
I want to travel, to pay my own way around the world, starting small and expanding further and further the more opportunities I have to do so. I especially want to travel with people I love, and if the only person available that I love is me, then to be okay with that.
I want to grow, love, fuck, travel, and learn. What more could a person ask for?