I recently started identifying as genderqueer. I’ve had hesitations about identifying as strictly female for quite some time. I was a tomboy as a kid and never quite grew out of it, but sort of adjusted to what was expected of me.
A few years ago I figured out that queer was a far more accurate label for my fluctuating sexual sexuality than bisexual or the one that I more often use – pansexual. I like the term because it evokes something different, something outside of the heteronormative, an oddity that is accurate for who I am. But recently I realized that this is also accurate for my gender too – a little odd, a bit different.
Genderfluid is probably more accurate – it shifts from day to day (as does my sexual orientation), but I love the word “queer”.
If you’re curious – I choose she/her or zie/zir for pronouns. I’m not a fan of they/them for myself – doesn’t feel quite right personally (grammatically is a different tin of worms that I’m not getting into).