The idea in poly that we could love people the same is rather silly. I do not love anyone the same as anyone else.
I love my parents because I honestly believe that they did the best job they knew how to do to raise my sister and me. They have been supportive even when they had no idea how to handle an introverted bi poly kid. I appreciate that. They have both tried to have an adult relationship with my sister and I and respect, generally, that they raised two very independent minded children.
I emphatically love some of my friends. It’s mostly because they’ve been around when I’ve needed people around and chose to stay in my life and bond with me. Some of them I want to have sex with, some I’d consider, some I have. It may have an effect on how I love them. It may not. I’m not sure, and for each it is different.
I love Grey Sky. I fell in love with him (for lack of a more preferred pronoun) very early on in things, not sure why so early, may be a matter of leaving my heart open. He is very sweet and I know he tries to be the best partner he can, given the limited opportunities to physically express it. Grey Sky gives me ammunition to love myself and in doing so, is far more lovable. I want to convey that to him – whatever he brings to the table, I will love him for it. I want to grow my Dom/top self with him, give him chances to know a part of me that I don’t often show. And I hope he feels comfortable enough to show the same.
I have been with Trydaen for near on four years. My love for him has blossomed and metamorphosed through that time. I love him because he folded himself into my life very well, because he gives me new mysteries every day, because he chose to stick with me even when it was not an easy thing to do, because he touches me even when that is not an easy/comfortable thing for him to do. We both are strong-willed, so when we fight, we really do, but it never escalates into abusive patterns. I like that he is willing to stand up to me.