Day 9: What’s your view on group sex?
In general? Fun to watch – fabulous for voyuering. Heck, even fun to be on the metaphorical sidelines of (I was actually physically in the middle of the action, but not actually getting any action – wasn’t really up for it that night. Heck I have an acquaintance (who I basically only see at sex parties anymore) who called me an orgy facilitator for awhile, which was flattering to say the least. Heck of a character that one…
I assume the question is meant to include threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes, as well as the standard six or more people group sex. Now these I have participated in. First time – the first time was a college FFM – yeah I know, so very stereotypical, but it was interesting in that it was spontaneous and none of us had had sex with each other before. It was fun at the time, but I have to look on the whole thing with hindsight, knowing that things between a couple of us went super sour, gaining me the only person I refer to as an ex-friend.
There have been a few more since then, all pretty damn memorable, but they have all shaped my view on non-monogamy very distinctly. Participating in threesomes and going to sex parties reminded me that yes, sometimes it is about the sex. And that I should examine my views on the more sex-oriented types of non-monogamy. Even though I identify as polyamorous, I always try to be very clear with new people that I’m seeing that yeah, sometimes I like to go to sex parties and watch and/or fuck. It’s a thing for me, what can I say?
It is hilarious to me to think of my parents ever finding out about this particular part of my non-monogamy. I don’t know if I would just be ordinary about it or try to keep it quiet. Most of me wants to do the ordinary one, but part of me knows that unpredicted situations/surprises can freak me out something fierce and I’m likely to act awkwardly. So, I guess we’ll see, if and when it comes out.