23. What, if any, involvement have you had with any groups or organizations? How did you find them?

I have had some involvement with groups on Facebook.  I am even a moderator for a small private book club.

One of the general local poly groups I have been involved with since they had about 350 people and now they have over 1000 members.  Amazing to see it grow and split and change over the years.  Interesting to see people come and go.  I have had a lot of time to assess my place in the group and rethink whether I still want to be part of it – I do, but the arguments in favor of that have become weaker over the last couple years.  The strongest argument in favor being that I would not have met Diplomat or June, may not have met Lola, wouldn’t have gotten to know Star or Sparkles much more than tangentially, and none of that is cool by me. I also belong to a number (and moderate one) subgroup of this big group – it broke into subgroups, like the Catholic Church, awhile back, and everyone seems to be better off for it.

Another (not specifically poly, but definitely non-monogamous) group I belong to, is, well, X-rated.  It is a group that organizes sex parties/orgies a few times a year, about 60% of which I go to.  It is a great place to go and see pictures of cute people (sometimes even naked) and to organize sexually oriented events.  I joined this group when it was first forming and had gone to one event before that fact (my first official sex party), but no one (unless they met me individually) seems to remember me – I had a couple people (including a moderator) ask if it was my first event with them.  I got a bit of a shocked reaction when I told them it was actually my fifth (Fourth?  Can’t remember) with them.  Am I really that forgettable?  Or is a matter of not being an extrovert, so I don’t really stand out?  I don’t know.