How do I define commitment? Is it possible for me to commit to more than one person at a time, and if so, what would those commitments look like?
I guess I would define it like this: two people give their informed consent to each other to start/continue a relationship with each other, with the intent of continuing with each other for whatever length of time they choose (including indefinitely). This means that they will continue to keep each other in their own loops and choose to work on whatever comes up during this time period. For me it is mostly about intention: I intend to continue the relationships I have currently in a loving and kind manner, and I believe that it is important for us to address anything that comes up and keep each other informed. I keep choosing them every morning when I wake up and I hope they either keep choosing me or talk to me about whatever is going on if they don’t choose me. (And by choosing me, I don’t mean exclusively – I mean keeping me as an important part of their picture.)
It is definitely possible for me to commit to more than one person at a time. Every morning, I give a minute or so to the idea of each of my partners and the picture we all form together. Did anything change the previous day? Is there anything we need to address (for me to keep choosing our relationship)? Do I still like the idea of us together? So, I just do this for more than one partner.