Are there specific kinds of relationships that I know I’m looking for? Kinds that I know I don’t want?
Right now? Mostly looking for casual dates – once a month, makeout at parties, occasionally go out for drinks kind of dates. If we have sex, great. If not, then no big deal. I could probably manage another kink-only partner, as long as it was not a every week sort of thing (averaging out maybe once a month or so).
I don’t have room in my emotional brain for heavy duty relationships right now – I have three partners who take up most of my head space right now and even that can seem like too much at some times. If a casual relationship looks like it is heading in that direction I won’t be entirely opposed to it, but I will lay out what my situation is early on and have a heavy discussion should it ever go in that direction.
In general – I don’t tend to like one night stand type of relationships. It tends to feel less emotionally intimate and that doesn’t really work for me. But my threshold for emotionally intimate enough is friends and casual dates – people I can trust in general, but specifically to talk to me if something comes up. Sometimes I will choose to do “pick up” play type things at certain events, but I don’t make a habit out of it, and it tends to be with people that, if I’m not on that level with, then I could find someone who is very easily.