So I was reading the polyamory subreddit earlier today, like I often do, and came across someone asking this question: What were some questions about polyamory you wish you’d asked in the beginning?
Someone posted that the question they would have asked would be: “How do I navigate fluid bonding networks when I don’t have hierarchy in my relationships?”
(potentially NSFW, after the break)
I had a really amazing session with my therapist on Wednesday.
It started out with her asking how I was doing, like she always does. For me, this is a great way to get things started out, to get the ball rolling. This Wednesday was no different.
There were a couple things that could have answered that question, as there have been a number of things occupying my mind lately. I chose the more difficult answer to the question (we got to the other one eventually, when it felt right).
It was the first time I had told anyone else in my life about this issue – it has to do with existential dread, of an obsessive nature, but is more than that. It usually comes up a few times a year (for the last 20 years), but had come up basically every day for about a week and a half before therapy, which was a bit disturbing to me.
It felt so good to finally be in a space that was safe enough that I could share this deepest secret and not only not be judged, but also have someone I trust with all of my issues who could help me. We talked about it for awhile, which was not easy, but I cannot put in words how much much weight it took off my mind to have someone else know this. She gave me a plausible idea about why it had come up now, which was very reassuring.
We talked about the nature of therapy – about how wonderful it is to have a therapist who you connect with on a personal level, about how weirdness is awesome, and about how truly amazing it was to me to find someone who created such a safe space that I could share something like this. She said that it was great for her to hear that.